Creating Trust, Intimacy and Relief through the Art of Shibari

Why We think You should learn Shibari too



Shibari, also known as kinbaku, is a contemporary form of rope bondage that hails from Japan. Simply put, it involves tying up a person for sensual and aesthetic purposes with some form of rope, often in a pretty or intricate pattern. Although Shibari is often done for erotic reasons, it can also be used as a relaxation practice, a means of building trust between partners, and a means of meditation - especially in connection of themes of surrender and letting go:

The intention to endure that leads into the mindfuck of letting go and surrendering to the suffering.

The relaxation of the muscles, the release. The bliss of giving up and accepting the vulnerability of your body. And the soothing realization that that giving up (in that space that you and your partner created and exist within in that moment) is a virtue - something to be proud of. That calm, peaceful moment after the last rope has been untied.


There are different theories about where shibari came from (some believe it originated in medieval torture, while others insist that it developed in Japan's red-light districts and erotic film industry) - as a kink-educator I can't help to notice, that this ongoing discussion and it`s importance to people tells us a lot about the power of storytelling and its connection to our core erotic themes.




Shibari plays a prominent role in our workshops and retreats for many reasons. It is our experience, that this form of sensuous bondage is a powerful tool to help promote healthy communication, trust and connection. Regardless of your gender, body type, and sexual orientation, shibari offers an opportunity to It allows you to step into the play between the power dynamics of guidance and surrender. With the release of control from the bottom to the top we create an intimate dance of trust and connection between partners. This often creates deep emotional connection, a space to express sensuality, creativity, playfulness, intimacy and passion.


Shibari is a process, it’s a path. It has a potential for almost everything. What you will experience in ropes depends on the intention you are tying with. Why do you want to tie with this person, at this moment? What would you like to feel? What is your story? Who are you in that moment? Who do you want to be?





Even though it may look sometimes very simple, it is important to state that shibari is an art, that requires a certain amount of knowledge and skill. If done improperly, it can be dangerous and can lead to various accidents and injuries, the most common one being nerve injury. Therefore, if you are curious and want to try any form of shibari we recommend you going actual classes or intro-workshops. Or why not directly jump into the deep end and join one of our week-long retreats?




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Pictures by Leela DeLieto, Eusephia Lehe & VÆGABØUND



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